Just want to wish everyone a healthy and happy new year. May 2013 bring peace and safety to all parts of the world. Thank you, my blogging friends, for your interest and support in me and my imperfect blog. I’m amazed by the warmth and caring I’ve found here. I can’t tell you how I’ve benefited from knowing you. I hope to have more to give to you in 2013. Love and hugs. XO Mary
The woman looking out the window is not me, but she could be me. I spend a lot of time looking out the window.
I cry every day. TV, poems, telephone conversations, everything makes me cry. Sad things, happy moments, but mostly beauty. There is so much beauty in the world. And it fills me with tears. The innocence of children, little acts of kindness between strangers, a loving heart, nature, the long suffering and loyalty of dogs and other animals, and the awful beauty of loss. Yes, loss, and what it does to us. Or, what we do with it. Loss changes people, makes us more patient, compassionate, understanding, loving.
But I cry so much! It bothers me sometimes. I remember when Henry, the man Mother married after Dad died, cried at a birthday party we gave him. Forrest, my husband, said, “Don’t be a baby.” It made me sad that he said such an unfeeling thing; And I hope Henry didn’t hear him. Having worked with the elderly, I knew, from experience, that older people tear up more easily than the young. There are exceptions, of course. One obvious reason for this, I think, is that by the time you reach those elder years, you’ve had countless losses and gone through many changes. And, I believe, we are also grieving our own coming deaths. Every time someone I care about dies, I feel a little closer to that day.
Tonight, watching Christmas in Rockefeller Center on TV, I had to change the channel. So many memories attached to the songs. Happier times, when we were all here enjoying the season together. I haven’t put up a tree since Scott died thirteen years ago. My only two grandchildren, both adopted, live in Connecticut; I live in Missouri. We don’t have much contact since John, my son (their dad} died. Sadly, Christmas and many other holidays, are just times for me to get through. Giving to others, especially the needy, helps, but, still, the heart of Christmas is missing for me. And many others.
This may seem like a contradiction to what I said about the elderly being compassionate, understanding and loving because of their losses. And I guess it is. Much of my life, and feelings, are contradictory. I’m trying to put it all together so I can feel whole again.